5 Reasons You’ll Hate Paris (& How Not To)

Hate Paris? Sounds crazy, right? With all its romantic tales, beautiful streets, rich history, and flaky croissants, you’d think it would be impossible.

I’ve lived in Paris for 20 years, and I love this city. But when someone tells me they visited Paris and absolutely hated it? Sometimes, I completely understand.

Because it is surprisingly easy to mess up a trip to Paris.

Spend your days fighting through crowds, stay in the wrong neighborhood, get overwhelmed by the Metro, eat mediocre food near tourist attractions, and have a few unpleasant encounters with Parisians. Suddenly, the City of Love isn’t feeling very lovable.

The good news? Most of these things are avoidable.

So before you decide Paris is overrated, here are 5 reasons you might hate Paris, and what to do differently.

#1 You Hate Paris Because It’s Too Crowded

Let’s get this one out of the way first: Paris is crowded.

Millions of visitors come to Paris every year. Add more than two million Parisians going to work, meeting friends, and simply living their lives, and things get busy. And I am not even counting the millions of daily commuters.

But the problem isn’t just that Paris is crowded.

The problem is that you can very easily spend your entire trip stuck in one massive tourist zone.

You shuffle through the Louvre with thousands of other people, then head over to the Champs-Élysées, where everything feels busy, flashy, and expensive. You pay too much for a coffee, too much for lunch, and start wondering if everyone in Paris is trying to get money out of you.

Then you get to the Eiffel Tower and it’s even worse.

At this point, you might feel like you’re trapped on Times Square rather than the romantic Paris you had in mind.

So you think, fine. Let’s go to Montmartre. Surely that will give you the charming Parisian streets, little terraces, and savoir vivre you came here for.

Except you arrive for pre-dinner drinks along with everyone else.

Personally, even after all this time, I find it suffocating. There’s a reason I almost never go to the Champs-Élysées, and you will never catch me willingly setting foot in Les Halles or Galeries Lafayette on a Saturday afternoon.

No, thank you.

This is how you can spend three days in Paris and come away convinced that the entire city is one enormous tourist trap.

You’ve seen Paris, technically. But you’ve spent the whole time moving from one tourist crowd to the next.

→ If Paris crowds overwhelm you, check out my guide, Paris Without The Overwhelm It’s packed with practical tips and strategies for experiencing Paris in a calmer way—without missing out on the city you came all this way to see.

The Fix: Stop Planning Your Trip Like a Checklist

You don’t have to avoid the big sights. Just don’t bundle too many crowded attractions into one day.

Louvre, Champs-Élysées, Eiffel Tower, then Montmartre for sunset might seem incredibly efficient on paper. But that efficiency is precisely what makes you miss Paris.

Instead, mix one major Paris sight with one or two less touristy parts of the city per day. And that’s it!

Go to the Louvre in the morning, then head to the Marais for lunch and spend the afternoon wandering around.

If you visit the Eiffel Tower, head to Saint-Germain afterwards instead of rushing to the next big attraction or even the Champs-Élysées.

And for Montmartre, be smart about timing. Go in the morning before the biggest crowds arrive, or later in the evening when things start calming down.

The goal isn’t to avoid tourists completely because, let’s face it, you’re a tourist too, after all. And the sights are one of the reasons you came to Paris in the first place.

It’s to stop moving from one tourist crowd straight into the next. Mix the famous Paris you came to see with the quieter Paris in between.

That’s usually where the charm you were looking for was hiding all along.

→ You’ll find tips for building a calmer Paris itinerary with fewer crowds in my guide, “Paris Without the Overwhelm.”

#2 You Expected Paris to Be a Fairytale

Maybe Paris just doesn’t feel French enough.

You came expecting accordion music, little cafés, old men carrying baguettes, romantic cobbled streets, and effortlessly chic Parisians drinking wine on terraces.

And yes, that Paris exists somewhere between the lines.

But so does Starbucks, Five Guys, traffic jams, overflowing trash cans, crowded Metros, scams, pickpockets, homelessness, addiction, stressed commuters, and overworked waiters who really don’t have time for you to stand in the doorway figuring out where you’re going.

Paris is beautiful, but it is also a living, working city.

More than two million people aren’t here to provide the backdrop for your vacation. They’re trying to get to work, pick up their kids, buy groceries, catch the Metro, pay their rent, and get through their day.

And sometimes the Metro smells. Sometimes the street smells. Sometimes the person sitting next to you smells.

Sometimes someone is sleeping rough outside an impossibly beautiful building while tourists are taking photos twenty meters away.

That contrast can be jarring if the Paris in your head came mostly from movies, Instagram, and romantic travel stories.

There is even a name associated with an extreme version of this disappointment: Paris Syndrome. It describes severe distress experienced by some visitors when the reality of Paris clashes dramatically with what they expected to find.

You probably won’t get physically sick because someone ruined your Emily in Paris fantasy.

But you might find yourself thinking:

This is Paris?

The Fix: Stop Expecting Paris to Be a Movie Set

Think about Paris the way you would think about New York, London, or Bangkok.

They can be incredible cities without every street being incredible.

Paris has breathtaking neighborhoods and ugly streets. Wonderful restaurants and terrible ones. Charming cafés and international chains. Wealth and poverty. Quiet little corners and chaotic intersections.

All of those things can exist at the same time.

So don’t arrive expecting every moment of your trip to look like the Paris you’ve seen in movies.

The ridiculously romantic café terrace exists. You’ll definitely see people walking home with baguettes tucked under their arms, and there’s a good chance you’ll hear an accordion somewhere along the way.

But around the corner, there might also be a traffic jam, someone yelling into their phone, and a Monoprix delivery truck blocking half the street while the driver behind it has a very Parisian meltdown.

That doesn’t mean you somehow found the wrong Paris.

That is Paris.

#3 You Hate the Metro

The Paris Métro can be intimidating when you first arrive.

There are 16 Métro lines, plus RER trains, trams, and buses. Stations can be busy, and suddenly you’re trying to work out which direction to go while hundreds of people who know exactly where they’re going rush past you.

But sometimes the Metro isn’t actually the problem. It’s everything you’ve read about it before your trip.

You’ve heard all the pickpocket stories, so you step onto the train clutching your bag and eyeing everyone suspiciously.

You’re terrified to take out your phone because surely someone will snatch it.

Then you read about tourists getting fined because they bought the wrong ticket or forgot to validate. You’ve heard horror stories about intimidating ticket inspectors who supposedly target tourists.

Now you’re worried about getting robbed, getting fined, getting lost, taking the wrong train, or emerging from the wrong exit into some unknown corner of Paris.

Nothing has even happened yet, and you’re already stressed.

And yes, pickpocketing happens in Paris. You should pay attention to your belongings.

But if you enter every Metro station expecting the worst possible thing to happen, getting around Paris becomes terrifying instead of simply unfamiliar.

The Fix: Get Familiar With the Metro Before You Arrive

You don’t need to understand the entire Paris transport system. You just need to take away some of the unknown.

→ Read my Guide How to use the Parisian Metro for a confidence boost.

Before your trip, spend ten minutes looking at a Metro map. Find the station closest to your hotel and the lines that stop there. Look up how you would get from your hotel to two or three places you know you want to visit.

Learn how the direction of a Metro line works and what you need to look for when changing trains.

Then read up on which ticket or pass you actually need, so you’re not trying to figure it out while standing in front of a ticket machine with a queue forming behind you.

And take normal precautions with your belongings. Keep your bag closed, don’t leave your phone hanging out of your back pocket, and pay attention in crowded trains and stations.

But don’t spend your entire trip assuming everyone standing next to you is about to rob you. Because they’re not.

Now, if you’re blocking the doors so nobody can get on or off? Sitting on a folding seat when the Métro is packed? Standing in everyone’s way while you figure out where you’re going? Talking incredibly loudly in a silent carriage?

Then yes. You may safely assume everyone is annoyed with you.

Please do assume this.

Thank you, on behalf of all Parisians.

The Métro feels much less intimidating once you know what you’re doing. After a couple of rides, there’s a good chance you’ll wonder what you were so worried about.

#4 You Hate the Food

This one might sound almost illegal to say, but yes: you can come to Paris and be disappointed by the food.

French food has such an incredible reputation that if you’re even slightly interested in food, you probably arrive expecting marvelous things.

Finally, you’re going to eat real escargots, confit de canard, boeuf bourguignon, cassoulet, and all those famous French dishes you’ve heard about.

And then you try them and think…

Huh. That was it?

Part of the problem is that the French food tourists expect to eat isn’t necessarily what you’ll find in every French restaurant.

Take escargots. You’re much more likely to find them in restaurants catering specifically to visitors, especially around touristy areas such as Saint Michel.

And this is where things can get weird.

You’ll find restaurants offering escargots from Burgundy, cassoulet from southwest France, onion soup, crêpes, duck confit, and practically every other famous French dish on the same enormous menu.

My French husband cannot get over places like this.

To him, it makes no sense. If you want Burgundy cuisine, you go somewhere specializing in food from Burgundy. If you want cassoulet, you go somewhere serving food from southwest France.

A restaurant trying to fulfill every French food fantasy a tourist might have is usually doing exactly that: catering to tourists.

And then there’s the easiest mistake of all.

You’re hungry. You’ve just visited the Eiffel Tower. There’s a restaurant right there with photos outside and a huge menu translated into five languages.

Problem solved.

Well… maybe.

There is plenty of mediocre food in Paris, especially around the biggest tourist attractions. Being in Paris does not magically make every restaurant good.

Restaurant service can also catch visitors off guard.

Meals often move at a different pace, and servers generally won’t check on you every few minutes. If you’re expecting the style of customer service you’re used to at home, you might interpret the experience as bad service when it’s simply different.

The Fix: Be More Selective and Flexible

You don’t need to research every meal weeks in advance.

But if there’s a particular French dish you really want to try, do a little research into where to eat it.

Want boeuf bourguignon? Look for somewhere known for good boeuf bourguignon rather than dropping in the first restaurant that has it on their menu.

Want escargots? Find a restaurant that actually does them well or even is spezialised in them.

Don’t wait until you’re starving beside the Eiffel Tower and assume the nearest restaurant will deliver the French culinary experience of your dreams.

I’m also very cautious of restaurants offering 50 different dishes. A massive multilingual menu trying to cover every famous French specialty is rarely a good sign.

And then there’s another possibility that nobody seems to mention:

Maybe you simply don’t like French food that much. That’s completely fair.

I’ve lived here for 20 years, and I’m still careful when ordering meat in French restaurants. I’m not a big meat eater anyway, and for me it’s often too undercooked, too raw, too greasy, or simply too… meaty.

Rather than ordering something I suspect might gross me out, I usually choose fish or the vegetarian option.

I’ve not once regretted it.

If you’ve tried three traditional French restaurants and disliked all three, maybe the answer isn’t booking a fourth.

Change strategy.

Paris has restaurants serving food from all over the world. Vietnamese, Lebanese, Italian, Japanese, North African, vegetarian, and plenty more. I marked many of my favorites on my Paris Google Map.

Eating French food every day isn’t a requirement for having a proper Paris trip.

You find my favorite French and international restaurants, cafés and bistros on my Paris Google Map. → sign up here for free access.

#5 You Hate Parisians Because They’re Rude

Parisians have a reputation for being rude, arrogant, and unfriendly.

And to be completely honest with you, I don’t think that reputation comes entirely out of nowhere.

I often notice how much friendlier people are when I travel elsewhere in France. I recently spent three weeks in Bretagne, and I kept being surprised by how warm everyone was.

Then I realized something slightly embarrassing: they probably weren’t unusually friendly.

I’m just very used to Parisians.

But there’s an important difference between not being particularly friendly and actively being rude.

Parisians generally won’t go out of their way to cater to every need you might have. They might not smile at you for no reason, make small talk, or make an extra effort to make you feel welcome.

If that’s what you’re used to at home, Paris can feel incredibly unfriendly.

Add a waiter who seems impatient, someone rolling their eyes because you’re blocking the Metro doors, someone giving you a “pardon” that sounds more like an insult, or a shopkeeper who doesn’t immediately switch to English, and you might quickly decide that the stereotype is completely true.

And yes, the eye roll can be spectacularly French.

But remember that most Parisians you encounter aren’t there because you’re on vacation.

They’re going to work. They’re late for an appointment. They’re trying to get home. And they probably aren’t particularly interested in whether you’re having the romantic Paris trip you imagined.

That can come across as cold, especially if you come from a culture where friendliness towards strangers is expected.

The Fix: Learn the Social Codes

You don’t need to become French before visiting Paris.

But learning a few basic social rules can completely change how people respond to you.

The biggest one is ridiculously simple:

Say bonjour.

When you enter a shop, bakery, restaurant, or even approach someone to ask a question, start with bonjour.

Don’t immediately launch into English with, “Excuse me, where is the Eiffel Tower?”

A bonjour, followed by a parlez-vous anglais?, already changes the interaction.

And pay attention to what’s happening around you.

Don’t stop in the middle of a busy pavement to check Google Maps. Don’t block the Métro doors while deciding whether this is your stop. If the train is packed, step out onto the platform for a moment so the people behind you can get off. No worries, you can get straight back on.

And stand to the right on escalators so people can pass on the left.

These things sound tiny, but in a busy city they matter.

Will every Parisian suddenly become incredibly friendly?

Absolutely not.

Some Parisians are impatient. Some are grumpy. And some are simply rude.

But once you stop expecting Parisian friendliness to look exactly like friendliness does at home, you might realize that people aren’t nearly as hostile as you first thought.

They’re just Parisians trying to get through daily life in a very busy city.

So, Will You Hate Paris?

Maybe.

Paris isn’t for everyone, and I don’t think it needs to be.

But sometimes what people hate isn’t Paris itself. It’s the version of Paris they ended up experiencing.

The crowds. The tourist restaurants. The stressful Metro rides. The neighborhood that wasn’t right for them. The expectation that every street would look like a movie set and every Parisian would be delighted to see them.

Paris doesn’t always make itself easy.

But after 20 years here, I’ve learned that knowing how the city works makes an enormous difference.

And a lot of the Paris I love is found outside the obvious tourist trail.

That’s why I created my free Paris map with more than 200 of my favorite places, including local restaurants, bars, lesser-known sights, and places I genuinely love after all these years.

→ Get my free Paris map

Use it to find a little more of the Paris that exists between the big sights.

And hopefully, instead of returning home saying “I hated Paris,” you’ll understand why so many of us stick around.

À bientôt,

Lena

Parisienne since 2006 🇫🇷
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